I despise with all my heart and soul this song by Bruno Mars.
Ok, so I don't hate the song as much by itself. It's cheesy as heck and mildly annoying, but it's not as awful as, say, Akon's vulgar and trashy I Wanna Make Love (Right Now Na Na Na) or Usher's Love In This Club. But after watching the video and reading some of the comments left by viewers, the song got a place in my Songs I'd Never Play If I Had My Own Radio Show list.
The lyrics to the song are made out of nothing but compliments for the woman Mr. Mars is serenading, which would be perfectly fine to me... If it was NOT just superficial crap like these precious lines:
Her eyes make the stars look like they're not shining
Her hair falls perfectly without her trying
She's so beautiful
And I tell her every day
When I see your face
There's not a thing that I would change
And when you smile
The whole world stops and stares for awhile
Cause girl you're amazing
Just the way you are
Her lips I could kiss them all day if she'd let me
Her laugh, she hates but I think its so sexy
And that's pretty much the gist of the song. He thinks his lady friend is gorgeous, she's got nice eyes, great hair, kissable lips...
Bla bla barf.
Wow. Way to make a girl feel like you care THAT much about her looks, Mr. Mars. And to add insult to injury, in the video, the singer's singing to some Hot Young Thang with conventional good looks, and who probably gets complimented for her looks all the time. Bruno Mars could have brought a whole new meaning to the song by putting people of all different shapes and sizes in the video (cheesy too, I know, like that Dove ad, or Michael Jackson's Black or White video, but the song's already cheesy to begin with, so it wouldn't really hurt to have a bit more cheese added...). So thanks to the video, the song really ends up being superficial trite.
Reading comments left by female viewers also annoyed me.
"Oh, I wish my boyfriend would sing this to me!"
"I would love a boy like bruno mars , he seems like the type who's really sensitive and all perfect ♥"
"This has to be the sweetest song I've ever heard! I heard it on the radio while straighting [sic] my hair and I was all "omfg this is amazing! I want a guy like that!" But yeah, my fave song right now :)"
"I swear, if boys would tell me something like this, I'll melt."
Oh girls, please gather yourselves. Just because a guy calls you pretty, it doesn't mean he loves you. It could (often) just mean he wants to get in your pants. Stop falling head over heels in love over some boy just because he knows how to sweet talk. Stop being so desperate and stop relying on boys to call you pretty in order to actually have a sense of worth.
Maybe I'm just bitter. Maybe I'm just a cynical old prune. But honest to God, I only feel this way because I think so many girls place so much emphasis on their looks and what boys think of their looks. So many girls rely too much on their looks to get what they want in life, and it's girls like these who are so afraid of aging, of getting wrinkles, because they think when their looks fade, they'd have nothing else to fall back on. But the truth is, we can have so much more to fall back on.
Mary Wollstonecraft was way ahead of her time in the 1700s when she wrote about how women needed to stop obsessing over decorating themselves merely for the pleasure of men, as at the time, the main way to get a husband was to look pretty and know how to entertain them through singing and dancing. Wollstonecraft emphasised that women needed to equip themselves with knowledge, with education, so that men would treat them as equals, and so that marriage between men and women could be built upon a foundation of intelligence and friendship instead of short-lived lust.
Four for you, Mary Wollstonecraft. You go, Mary Wollstonecraft.
I'm glad I'm not the only one who thought about the Bruno Mars song this way. Spotted this on youtube:
"Bruno has a great voice but I'm just not liking this song. Way too cheesy and I feel like he only likes her for her looks."
Thank you!
Lots of love,
from Me.
ps: Oh and here's another great one:
"I'd be like, 'fool, why the f*** did you just ruin my tape?'"
8 comments:
Who is this Bruno Mars [/noob]
The guy that sings this song, Rudy. He also sings that 'I wanna be a billionaire' song... I wouldn't have heard the song if people hadn't posted the video up on fb...
Lol at final comment! I would've said that too! How dare you take away my casette and ruin it foo?!
But aww Pai, beauty IS in the eye of the beholder. There are some people in my eyes who might not be the conventional type of attractive, but when I hear them speak, the content of their thoughts, I get all wobbly and I would assume that if such character and personality were to be combined with a little humour and more importantly kindness, I'd be fawning at how gorgeous they were.
But yeah, this video was a total pfft. I said the exact same thing to my sister. Why the heck would he want to change the looks of some girl model? PFFT. Fail, Bruno Mars, fail.
Lubna, I remember a time when I used to say I liked ugly hot men... It was a bit harsh, as there's no such thing as ugly, really, but what I meant was that I like the ones who have great personalities, regardless of what they look like, even if other people would say they're physically unattractive...
The scale of Bruno Mars' fail in this vid is just EPIC.
Now, if Bruno Mars would write and sing a song about how awesome someone is regardless of how they look, then maybe I'd be less annoyed. :P
I kinda terasa, cause Ezuan posted this song on my wall recently :P
Parts of the song may be superficial, but I think if you just take the song for what it is; a guy telling a girl that he thinks she's perfect (outside or inside immaterial) despite her own hangups or insecurities, it's very sweet.
I'm sure every girl (however pretty) has insecurities, which are more often than not physical insecurities. A good partner should be the one making her feel better about herself, regardless what it's about.
Maybe Bruno Mars could have included more things about her intelligence or wit, but hey, maybe it wasn't as catchy.
I guess it depends on the context. As long as the girl is secure in knowing that the boy's love for her goes deeper than just shining eyes, there's no harm in him reminding her that she's beautiful as well.
Just my two cents :)
Helena, I'm well aware that people interpret the song that way- that they believe it's about a guy telling a girl she's perfect (inside and out immaterial), and yes, a song like that would be sweet. But like I said, I wouldn't have a problem if the lyrics had at least one line that compliments something other than her looks.
I mentioned it's not the song itself that I have the biggest gripe with, and I've already said everything I had to say about the video. It's the reaction of a lot of female viewers that concerns me the most. You wouldn't believe the amount of comments there are out there that are similar to the ones I included in the post. It's frustrating to see how so many girls would fall head over heels over a guy just because the guy knows how to tell a girl she's pretty. It's not just reflected in these online comments, either. I hear stories all the time from sisters and friends who tell me unfortunate stories of how girls can so easily be manipulated by men who know how to flatter them and make them feel like the prettiest girls out there.
I'm sure you're not like those girls, of course, so there's no reason to be terasa, really. I think it is sweet if a guy dedicates/sings this song to a girl, but only if they both know that the love they share is based on more than just the superficial.
:)
you should read the answers of No. 7 from these people, too.
http://diasleepystuff.blogspot.com/2010/09/journal-2-tagged-by-k-nani-part-1.html
http://hayakatsu1505.blogspot.com/2010/09/hey-guys-i-got-tagged-on-facebook-and.html
twilight lololol.
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