Get Real

My sister Anisah had written a blog entry called 'A Guide for Guys: What to avoid when trying to win over the girl you like', and she made a few points relevant for the 'single man desperate to change his status'. However, there was one point missing, so I decided to write this to add to the list.

If you're a single guy and you're interested in getting a woman, DO NOT, I repeat, DO NOT, list down the kind of women you fancy.

For example, a guy named Rahul Lothario wants a girl. Here's what he writes on his blog/friendster profile/myspace:

I want a woman who has endless legs, washboard abs, long wavy brown hair and bee stung lips. She must be well-groomed and confident of her looks.

She must be athletic, and she must work out by doing yoga and weightlifting and pilates and yogalates and situps everyday. She must not, however, look like She-Hulk.

She has to have a wicked sense of humour and be intellectual and must have read at least five Literature Greats by Leo Tolstoy, Shakespeare, Chaucer, and the likes.

She must be....

You get my drift.

Now, unless you're James Bond, you cannot demand for such a woman, for such drop-dead gorgeous, intelligent fembots hardly exist in real life. Yes, Bond Women are not real, you know. Sorry to burst your bubble, love.

And mind you, the points listed above are super shallow. There's so much more to a woman apart from her looks, and what she's read, so stop listing out the qualities you're after, cuz you'll end up disappointed, and women you're after end up offended. Needless to say, you end up looking like a right piece of JERK, and even if you are one, it's not something you should make so obvious if it's women you're after.

WE ARE NOT OBJECTS, nor are we DOGS COMPETING IN A DOG SHOW who need judges ticking off and giving points for the qualities we do and do not have.

A woman loves a man who loves a woman who's REAL. :)

There you go.

Lots of love for unshallow men and real women,

from Me.